Surrender -Step 3

Before OA, and in the quagmire, I too would say I was happy, but I lied to others and especially to myself.  It is a symptom of the dis-ease.  Putting on my mask to try and be as normal as I could be was my protection.  My way of coping from the pain I was living.  Until I was ready to admit that I had a problem, there wasn’t anything anyone could say or do to change my mind. No one was able to convince me of anything, because I knew it all or I thought I did. I was in control.

Now in OA, I know I am powerless over food and my life unmanageable. I knew My HP was only one who could help. BUT it wasn’t until I completely surrendered and gave up the wheel to my HP, did I truly understand. My HP takes away my cravings, keeps me abstinent and guides me to an awareness that helps me in so many ways.

The 12 steps and 12 traditions and tools of recovery are for my own recovery; they are my focus. Anyone else’s issues are theirs and not mine; I am to give no advice; this is what my program teaches.  I share my own Experience, Strength and Hope and have compassion for those who are struggling. 

-anonymous

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